T35 — Auckland support group for trans women 35+

Who we are

Older trans women, in our own room

T35 is a peer-led support group for transgender women aged 35 and over in Auckland. We meet to talk honestly, to support one another, and to share the particular experience of moving through midlife and beyond as trans women.

We centre older voices

So much of the wider conversation is shaped by younger people. Here, the room belongs to those of us who came home to ourselves later in life, or who have simply lived a while. That changes what we can talk about, and how.

What's shared stays here

This is a confidential group. People speak about things they may not have said out loud anywhere else, and we hold that for one another. No pressure to share before you're ready — you're welcome to just listen.

Who it's for

Who the group is for

The Sunday group is for trans women aged 35 and over. If that's you, you belong here — wherever you are in your journey.

We sometimes welcome younger trans women who are ready for the kind of frank, grounded kōrero the group is built around. If that's you, get in touch and we'll have a chat.

The support group isn't open to trans men, or to partners, family, and other support people. That boundary isn't about anyone being unwelcome in the world — it's what lets members speak openly about things that are deeply personal, knowing the room is only the people they're sharing with.

When & where

Every Sunday morning

10:00am – 12:00pm

Come as you are. There's no need to book — just turn up. If it's your first time and you'd like a friendly face to meet you at the door, send us a message first.

Plans occasionally change — please check our Discord for any cancellations before you head in.

Sundays, weekly
10am to 12pm

Level 1, Burnett Centre
35 Hargreaves Street, St Marys Bay, Auckland
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More than Sundays

We meet socially too

A few times a year we get together socially — a coffee, a shared meal, a relaxed afternoon out. These catch-ups are open to anyone in our community, whether or not you make it along on Sundays. Watch the Discord or Facebook group for the next one.

Our group guidelines

How we keep the room safe

T35 is made up of people we believe to be among the most vulnerable in an already vulnerable community. Our purpose for meeting is to provide peer support to one another, and to encourage each other to be our authentic selves in an as-yet non-affirming world.

These guidelines help us make sure our meetings stay a safe place to be:

The check-in round needs to remain personal and supportive — discussion around political and other sensitive issues can be held until the end.
There's no need to raise voices, or to be abusive or condescending towards others. Full stop.
Try not to interrupt when others are speaking. Make a note of something you'd like to raise later. "Feel free to ask questions, clarify, and help each other out with ideas. Just don't butt in and make the current conversation about you when someone else is speaking…"
Respect one another at all times, and maintain unconditional positive regard — we are all on the same journey together, every person and every journey valid. "Don't use a group member's past deeds — that they have paid for, or done the time for — against them. We all make mistakes in growing and learning who we are…"
Try to use phrases like "I believe… I feel… in my opinion… on my journey I have found…" rather than "I know best… this is how it is, or should be, for you…"
Your story and your transition are personal and valid, and not for anyone else to attempt to rectify or amend. Every human is unique, and no one shoe fits all. Stay you!

T35a support group for trans women, 35 and over