T35 — Auckland support group for trans women 35+

Who we are

A group for older trans women

T35 is a peer-led support group for transgender women aged 35 and over in Auckland. We talk about what it's like to be a trans woman in midlife and later, and we support each other through it.

We centre older voices

Most trans spaces are shaped by younger people. Our members transitioned later in life or have been out for a long time, so we talk about the things that come up at our age.

What's shared stays here

This is a confidential group. People talk about things they may not have told anyone else, and we keep it to ourselves. You don't have to share until you're ready, and you're welcome to just listen.

Who it's for

Who the group is for

The Sunday group is for trans women aged 35 and over, at any stage of transition.

Younger trans women are sometimes welcome if they're comfortable with the frank conversations the group has. If that's you, get in touch and we'll talk it over.

The support group isn't open to trans men, or to partners, family and other support people. Keeping the room to members means people can talk openly about personal things.

When & where

Every Sunday morning

10:00am – 12:00pm

You don't need to book. If it's your first time and you'd like someone to meet you at the door, send us a message beforehand.

Meetings are occasionally cancelled, so please check our Discord before you head in.

Sundays, weekly
10am to 12pm

Level 1, Burnett Centre
35 Hargreaves Street, St Marys Bay, Auckland
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Social catch-ups

We meet socially too

A few times a year we meet up for coffee, a meal or an afternoon out. Anyone in the community is welcome, whether or not you come on Sundays. Dates are posted on Discord and in the Facebook group.

Our group guidelines

How we keep the group safe

Many of our members are among the most vulnerable people in an already vulnerable community. We meet to give each other peer support and to encourage each other to live as ourselves.

These guidelines keep our meetings safe:

The check-in round needs to remain personal and supportive — discussion around political and other sensitive issues can be held until the end.
There's no need to raise voices, or to be abusive or condescending towards others.
Try not to interrupt when others are speaking. Make a note of something you'd like to raise later. "Feel free to ask questions, clarify, and help each other out with ideas. Just don't butt in and make the current conversation about you when someone else is speaking…"
Respect one another at all times, and maintain unconditional positive regard — we are all on the same journey together, every person and every journey valid. "Don't use a group member's past deeds — that they have paid for, or done the time for — against them. We all make mistakes in growing and learning who we are…"
Try to use phrases like "I believe… I feel… in my opinion… on my journey I have found…" rather than "I know best… this is how it is, or should be, for you…"
Your story and your transition are personal and valid, and not for anyone else to attempt to rectify or amend.

A support group for trans women aged 35 and over
Tāmaki Makaurau Auckland · Aotearoa